LoveLetters - Issue 4

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APRIL 2018
 

Welcome to LoveLetters, a monthly roundup of upcoming events, inspiring ideas and products we love. Our goal is to produce an issue of our newsletter towards the end of each month that will provide an overview of what we've been up to at LovEd and what we're loving lately. 

We'll be featuring our fourth LovEd Live event on May 12th at 2PM EST where we'll answer all your burning questions on love and personal growth. If you missed out interview for the Happiness After Heartbreak Summit, it's now available on the Interviews section of our website. 

Our Ambassador Program is in full swing. The mission of the Program is to create a community of like-minded individuals who are invested in personal growth, passionate about doing love differently, and committed to being the best version of themselves. If you're interested in applying for next year's journey, you can follow this link to find out more. 

We're JUST about ready to launch our Salon for Singles series, so stay tuned! 

Without further ado, here's our LoveLetters Issue 4.

Happy May!

 

Enjoy + Share
WITH a friend!

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BE THE 5 Segment: 

LovEd's Clarity Program teaches us how to be a level 5 on the Emotional Maturity (EM) Scale. Each month, we feature someone who has inspired us with their high level of EM, meaning they've chosen not to take things personally, respond reactively or approach the situation in a way that contributes to the problem. 

This month, our segment is focusing on Jenn Campbell Jackson. The day after she lost her husband Earnest in a car accent, she wrote a Facebook post asking for people to hold the woman responsible in their hearts as well. It wasn't 24 hours later, and this is who she was choosing to be, as others were outraged that the driver had left the scene. She asked: "Is she a mother? Was she terrified? Did she panic?" 

What an inspiration Jenn is for us all, especially those of us facing such a great loss. 
 

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LovEd Loves: Our Favorite RETREATS: 

Here are some of our favorite workshops & retreats in the realm of self-help and personal-growth:  

 
  • 1440 Multiversity is a place to experience time differently—exploring what matters to you, while surrounded by fresh air, delicious food, wellness classes, many ways to unwind, and opportunities to connect with yourself and others. Whether you come for a program with world-renowned faculty or spend a weekend on campus taking 1440 specialty classes, you can look forward to the perfect blend of learning, vacation, and space for reflection.

  • A leader and innovator in its field, Landmark is an international personal and professional growth, training and development company with a range of offerings that are innovative, effective, and immediately relevant.

  • The Kripalu Center for Yoga & Health is a non-profit organization that operates a health and yoga retreat in Stockbridge, Massachusetts. The center has described itself as North America's largest residential facility for holistic health and education.

  • Omega is a nonprofit, mission-driven, and donor-supported educational organization. For more than 40 years they've been a pioneer in holistic studies – helping people and organizations integrate personal growth and social change, moving beyond ‘the way it is’ toward ‘the way it can be’. 

Visit LovEd Loves for more recommendations. 

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THINGS WE're LOVING LATELY

  • This video montage of men's dating applications from the 80s
    Why fixing other people's problems can leave us with more of our own
  • This article that deals with the magnitude that comes out of the decision to get married 
  • The New York Times' column that focuses on the trials and tribulations of modern love
  • This take on whether female friendships are the key to happiness in older women
  • Research shows that people with strong emotional intelligence are more likely to succeed than those with high IQs
  • Our article featured in Gainesville Home Magazine discusses how to enhance your communication skills
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MEET OUR TEAM

Here at LovEd, we wouldn't be able to do half of what we do if it weren't for our team of engaging, enthusiastic and creative team members. Each month, we'll introduce you to a new member of the LovEd Team and share a short description so you get a better insight into who we are and what we're made of.  You can find out more about our team here and our Fearless Leader, right here

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Wishing you all a wonderful month ahead! Feel free to show us some love by liking and sharing our blog post, or leave us a love note at the bottom on the page. 


You are LovEd ,

Dr. Isabell Springer
& The LovEd Team

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LoveLetters - Issue 3

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MARCH 2018

Welcome to LoveLetters, a monthly roundup of upcoming events, inspiring ideas and products we love. Our goal is to produce an issue of our newsletter towards the end of each month that will provide an overview of what we've been up to at LovEd and what we're loving lately. 

In the past month, we had our third LovEd Live event on March 24th where we answered all your burning questions on love and personal growth. We were also interviewed for the Happiness After Heartbreak Summit where we talked about Clarity and the New Model for Love. 

Our Ambassador Program is in full swing. The mission of the Program is to create a community of like-minded individuals who are invested in personal growth, passionate about doing love differently, and committed to being the best version of themselves. If you're interested in applying for next year's journey, you can follow this link to find out more. 

We're almost ready to launch our Salon for Singles series! Stay tuned for next month's LoveLetters where we'll unveil all the details and reveal how you can participate. 

Without further ado, here's our LoveLetters Issue 3.

Happy April!

 

Enjoy + Share
WITH a friend!

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BE THE 5 Segment: 

LovEd's Clarity Program teaches us how to be a level 5 on the Emotional Maturity (EM) Scale. Each month, we feature someone who has inspired us with their high level of EM, meaning they've chosen not to take things personally, respond reactively or approach the situation in a way that contributes to the problem. 

This month, our segment is focusing on Jessica Chastain. Recently on social media, Jessica shared a photo of herself supporting feminism and international women's day. One follower's reply challenged Jessica's pro-choice stance, but instead of invalidating her feelings and starting an argument, miss Chastain replied with love and compassion.

She took the time to learn about this particular fan's background and discovered that she had a crowdfunding campaign to help her struggle with becoming a parent. Jessica contributed financially to the campaign and both women were left feeling with a sense of sisterhood and empathy for one another. To read more about how Jessica Chastain demonstrated being the 5 on the EM Scale, you can visit this link

 
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LovEd Loves: Our Favorite BOOKS: 

Here are our favorite books in the realm of self-help, relationships and personal-growth:  

 
  • The Surrender Experiment tells the extraordinary story of what happened when, after a deep spiritual awakening, author Michael A. Singer decided to let go of his personal preferences and simply let life call the shots.

  • Tiny Beautiful Things brings the best of Cheryl Strayed (aka 'Dear Sugar') in one place. Filled with personality, humor, insight, compassion, empathy and raw honesty, this book is a salve for the human condition.

  • Conscious Uncoupling by Katherine Woodward Thomas intends to shift us away from approaching breakups with bitterness and pain, and instead guides us towards a new life of empowerment.

Visit LovEd Loves for more recommendations. 

 
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THINGS WE're LOVING LATELY

  • The search for "the one" and what it means in modern relationships
  • Ten things that steal our motivation and how to get it back
  • Mark Manson's guide to strong boundaries and how to set them
  • The Minimalists approach letting go of unsatisfying relationships 
  • This article on why we may feel a sense of "lacking" when we don't have old friends 
 
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MEET OUR TEAM

Here at LovEd, we wouldn't be able to do half of what we do if it weren't for our team of engaging, enthusiastic and creative team members. Each month, we'll introduce you to a new member of the LovEd Team and share a short description so you get a better insight into who we are and what we're made of.  You can find out more about our team here and our Fearless Leader, right here. 

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Wishing you all a wonderful month ahead! Feel free to show us some love by liking and sharing our blog post, or leave us a love note at the bottom on the page. 


You are LovEd ,

Dr. Isabell Springer
& The LovEd Team

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LoveLetters - Issue 2

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February 2018

Welcome to LoveLetters, a monthly roundup of upcoming events,  inspiring ideas and products we love. Our goal is to produce an issue of our newsletter towards the end of each month that will provide an overview of what we've been up to at LovEd and what we're loving lately. 

This past month has been a busy one for us here at LovEd.

We hosted a Happiness Hour (once a week for four weeks) where we got together with our community to talk about love and life while enjoying great food and drinks. 

On February 2nd, we were interviewed on the Bob Rose show and you can find photos and more details from this event here

We had our second LovEd Live event on February 10th where we discussed doing V-Day the LovEd way and on February 14th, we were interviewed for the podcast "In Her Voice" by Kelly Covert where we talked about the New Model for Love. 

On top of that, we've begun brainstorming a LovEd singles event that you won't want to miss, so stay tuned for updates! 

Happy March!

 
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BE THE 5 Segment: 

LovEd's Clarity Program teaches us how to be a level 5 on the Emotional Maturity (EM) Scale. Each month, we feature someone who has inspired us with their high level of EM, meaning they've chosen not to take things personally, respond reactively or approach the situation in a way that contributes to the problem. 

Our inspiration this month is Brandon Truaxe, founder of DECIEM the "Abnormal Beauty Company". This Canadian skincare and beauty mogul focuses on maintaining transparency, eccentricity and accountability with his business. He's recently taken to social media to make a public apology, and has vowed to remove all plastic (including bags, droppers and foundation bottles) from his company. Click here and here to find more about Brandon and how DECIEM came about.  

 
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LovEd Loves: Our Favorite Podcasts: 

Here are our favorite podcasts in the realm of self-help, relationships and personal-growth:  

  • Oprah's "SuperSoul Conversations" Podcast features conversations with the world's top thinkers, teachers and luminaries. 
  • Esther Perel's Podcast"Where Should We Begin" takes us into the therapist's chair and allows us to experience alongside couples who are struggling to overcome interpersonal issues. 
  • "Together Guide" is a twice weekly podcast from reformed divorce lawyer Erik Newton that walks us through the work required to have successful relationships through a series of honest conversations with real couples. 
  • "Modern Love: The Podcast" adds new dimension to the popular New York Times column Modern Love, with readings by notable personalities and updates from the essayists.  
  • The "Dear Sugars" Podcast tackles all questions — even the deep, dark ones — and offers radical empathy in response.

Visit LovEd Loves for more recommendations. 

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THINGS WE're LOVING LATELY

  • Our article "Love Is A Verb" was feature in Gainesville's HOME Magazine this month
  • The fact that we sold out our Happiness Hour event four weeks in a row!
  • Shannon Leigh discusses Types of Love, tapping into all the nuances of relationships and what she constitutes as real love
  • This article that discusses how to be a tiny bit better at first dates
  • Mark Manson talking about three important life skills that nobody ever taught you
  • How being raised by anxious parents could be affecting your mental health 
  • Our V-day is Cliche Contest is finished, and the winners are: Holly W in first place, and Breanna M in second. See their entries here:  
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MEET OUR TEAM

Here at LovEd, we wouldn't be able to do half of what we do if it weren't for our team of engaging, enthusiastic and creative team members. Each month, we'll introduce you to a new member of the LovEd Team and share a short description so you get a better insight into who we are and what we're made of.  You can find out more about our team here and our Fearless Leader, right here. 

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Wishing you all a wonderful month ahead! Feel free to show us some love by liking and sharing our blog post, or leave us a love note at the bottom on the page. 


You are LovEd ,

Dr. Isabell Springer
& The LovEd Team

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Love Is A Verb

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So few people can truly qualify love, never mind distinguish between the kind of love that builds someone up or that breaks someone down. Everywhere we look, whether in our families, within our group of friends or on social media, love is misrepresented and ill defined.

So this begs the question: What is love? And what are the mechanisms by which we can sustain long-lasting, enriching relationships?
 

1. Love is not an adjective

By that, I mean it’s not meant to qualify who we are. Adjectives by nature define and describe; they give character and description to another word. But love does more than this. Our relationships need only ever be a part of us, not all. We are composed of so many things; we are made up of our passions, hobbies, ideas, histories, ambitions, and experiences. We are not limited to being someone’s partner; we are individuals first.  

And love doesn’t determine our self-worth or personal value. Just because we have someone to love us, doesn’t mean that we’re more worthy for it. Along the same line, just because we don’t have someone to love us, doesn’t mean we’re less valuable. In fact, the quality of our relationships with others is largely measured by how much we respect and care for ourselves. Suffice it to say that we need to have high enough self-worth from the get-go in order to seek out a relationship worthy of our time and attention.  

 

2. Love is not (even) a noun

Nouns, by definition, are words that identify something. Nouns are words composed of that which we can possess, whether material or non-material. But love is something different; it’s not something we have, get or own.  

They say we don’t know what love is until we experience it for ourselves. And yet, what we often define as “true love” ends up looking a lot like a lack thereof from the rearview mirror. That’s because our concept of love is meant to evolve over time. What we identify as love when we’re teenagers won’t likely be the same type of love that we seek as adults. And that’s the whole point.

It’s also not a destination at which we arrive. Just because we’re in love, doesn’t mean the journey is over. In fact, the moment that we enter into a relationship, a whole new journey begins. We get to learn more about who this person is, while discovering more about ourselves. We learn how to be vulnerable and develop a shared sense of intimacy. And each new day, month and year begets a new challenge, whether that looks like going on dates, taking a trip, buying a house, or starting a family. Love, like life in general, is a series of new experiences and opportunities for growth.

And being in love doesn’t mean we’re exempt from self-growth. Great relationships aren’t the end-goal of the personal growth movement; they’re a side effect. Because nothing, not even love, is a guarantee in this life. And if we can’t grow with our partners, they’ll likely outgrow us. But besides this, working on ourselves is more than just being good enough for someone else. It’s an endeavor to constantly discover more about who we are in relation to every facet of our lives and environments.

 

3. Love is a verb

It’s something we actively do. It’s a series of choices we make every day. The choice to lean in, the choice to clean up, the decision to do what’s often least comfortable but always most worthwhile. It’s taking the responsibility for ourselves and for nourishing our partnerships. It’s recognizing that perfection doesn’t exist, and real relationships are oftentimes messy. It’s about developing a plan for how to deal with issues and how to communicate through the hard times.

As author Cheryl Strayed puts it, “The story of human intimacy is one of constantly allowing ourselves to see those we love most deeply in a new, more fractured light.” And so it’s a habit we work to hone. No matter how many years we’ve been together, there’s always more to learn about each other and ourselves. We can cultivate a habit of kindness, exploration and connection with our partners, or we can push them away and stagnate our bond.

It’s never black and white; the moment one thing gets resolved, another situation or new challenge arises. But if we can work through our biggest struggles, what we’re often left with is the source of our most meaningful and intimate experiences.

To conclude, the topic of love is one that’s no doubt elusive. And to be honest, love can mean one thing to someone and one thing completely different to someone else. There are many ways to love someone, and we can love different people in different ways. But the type of love that’s long lasting, the type of love that sustains over the years, that’s one in which each partner must grow together.

Perhaps we should approach our concept of love as being shades of grey. And maybe we should treat it as an action to think about and work on every day. Then we’d likely be better equipped to harness the kind of love we’re each longing for - the kind that also acts upon us in return.


This article was originally published here in Gainesville HOME Magazine, pages 16-17. 

LoveLetters - Issue 1

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January 2018

Welcome to LoveLetters, a monthly roundup of upcoming events,  inspiring ideas and products we love. Our goal is to produce an issue of our newsletter towards the end of each month that will provide an overview of what we've been up to at LovEd and what we're loving lately. 

In spirit of the new year, we at LovEd have decided to really step up our game. We're determined to deliver an increased amount of content, more high quality products and an array of brand new services to our clientele.

We're also doing monthly Facebook Live events where you can learn from me, Dr. Isabell Springer, and ask me any questions your heart desires. 

I'm so excited for the new year and everything we've got coming your way!

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BE THE 5 Segment: 

LovEd's Clarity Program teaches us how to be a level 5 on the Emotional Maturity (EM) Scale. Each month, we feature someone who has inspired us with their high level of EM, meaning they've chosen not to take things personally, respond reactively or approach the situation in a way that contributes to the problem. 

Our inspiration this month is Sarah Silverman. When someone started trolling her twitter account, Sarah approached the situation with maturity and compassion instead of anger and negativity. Not only was she able to disarm this man's aggressiveness, but she also managed to encourage others to come together and support his healing. 

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GRATITUDE LIST

Taking stock of what we're grateful for is a wonderful way to check in and be mindful of the small victories and positive moments in our day to day lives. This month, we polled our staff to find out what everyone's grateful for.

Here's what they all came up with: 

  • New beginnings and fresh starts
  • Reunions with friends and loved ones
  • Team members for their unwavering commitment
  • Authentic conversations with my 18-year-old son about relationships
  • Brave clients and their trustworthiness
  • People who can show up and support their loved ones in times of need
  • Deep, profound conversations and connections
  • Songs that mirror how I feel inside
  • Empathy, kindness and support in friendships and relationships
  • Curiosity, learning and evolving
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BOOKS WE're INSPIRED BY

 

Visit LovEd Loves for more book recommendations. 

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THINGS WE're LOVING LATELY

  • The article "How We Get Stuckby Shannon Leigh describes five very real, very common reasons you may find yourself stuck over a past love affair ; 
  • The word Sonder (noun) describes the realization that each passerby has a life as vivid and complex as your own; 
  • Kesha's Grammy performance featuring Cyndi Lauper, Camila Cabello, Andra Day, Julia Michaels and Bebe Rexha and the Resistance Revival Chorus; 
  • The Women's March returned for its second year on this past 20th of January, where hundreds of thousands of women rallied and protested across various countries in the world. 
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Wishing you all a wonderful month ahead! Feel free to show us some love by liking and sharing our blog post, or leave us a love note at the bottom on the page. 


You are LovEd ,

Dr. Isabell Springer
& The LovEd Team

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