LoveLetters - Issue 6

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JUNE 2018
 

Welcome to LoveLetters, a monthly roundup of upcoming events, inspiring ideas and products we love. Our goal is to produce an issue of our newsletter towards the end of each month that will provide an overview of what we've been up to at LovEd and what we're loving lately. 

Our Ambassador Program is in full swing. The mission of the Program is to create a community of like-minded individuals who are invested in personal growth, passionate about doing love differently, and committed to being the best version of themselves. If you're interested in applying for next year's journey, you can follow this link to find out more. 

In other news, our fearless leader Isabell has just returned from a trip across the globe, so we're excited to get back into the swing of things after a much-needed vacation. 

Happy July!

 

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BE THE 5 Segment: 

LovEd's Clarity Program teaches us how to be a level 5 on the Emotional Maturity (EM) Scale. Each month, we feature someone who has inspired us with their high level of EM, meaning they've chosen not to take things personally, respond reactively or approach the situation in a way that contributes to the problem. 

This month, our segment is focusing on novelist Cheryl Strayed. Author of many bestselling books, such as Wild, Tiny Beautiful Things, and Brave Enough, Cheryl also co-hosts the "Dear Sugars" podcast with Steve Almond and contributes to the "Sweet Spot" column for the New York Times. 

If that's not enough, the topics Cheryl touches on in her books and podcast episodes focus on answering life's difficult questions. In one particular podcast episode called "Trust Your Body" that focuses on dieting and body image, Cheryl answers a listener's question by sharing her own experience with weight and body issues. She recalls a story where she was being featured in Vogue magazine for her book Wild, who sought to feature her as being an embodiment of "powerful women".

Learning she had to do a photoshoot made her nervous as she wanted to delay the meeting in order to have time to lose weight, yet when she saw the photos that were chosen in the issue she realized that the magazine had completely altered how she looked. In fact, the image was barely recognizable to her and her husband; she felt that they had "corrected her" image in order to appear good enough for the magazine.  

To the woman who wrote in, Cheryl says in the episode: "You are a slave to a system that's lied to you, that's said you should be ashamed of your body and you're not okay as you are." What a revolutionary approach to body image issues in a society that overtly objectifies women (and men), telling us how we should look, then blaming us when we don't "fit" into that box. 

Have a listen to the podcast episode for more insight and Cheryl, thanks for being the 5! 

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LovEd Loves: Our Favorite BOOKS on ADDICTION

Here are some of our favorite books in the realm of self-help and personal-growth with the overarching theme of addiction.

  • Blackout: Shining a light into her blackouts, Sarah Hepola discovers the person she buried, as well as the confidence, intimacy, and creativity she once believed came only from a bottle. Her tale will resonate with anyone who has been forced to reinvent or struggled in the face of necessary change. It's about giving up the thing you cherish most--but getting yourself back in return.
  • Drinking - A Love Story: Fifteen million Americans a year are plagued with alcoholism. Five million of them are women. Many of them, like Caroline Knapp, started in their early teens and began to use alcohol as "liquid armor," a way to protect themselves against the difficult realities of life. In this extraordinarily candid and revealing memoir, Knapp offers important insights not only about alcoholism, but about life itself and how we learn to cope with it.
  • Codependent No More: This modern classic holds the key to understanding codependency and to unlocking its stultifying hold on your life.With instructive life stories, personal reflections, exercises, and self-tests, Codependent No More is a simple, straightforward, readable map of the perplexing world of codependency--charting the path to freedom and a lifetime of healing, hope, and happiness.
  • The Language of Letting Go: Problems are made to be solved, and the best thing we can do is take responsibility for our own pain and self-care. In this book of daily meditations, Melody Beattie provides us with a thought to guide us through the day and she encourages us to remember that each day is an opportunity for growth and renewal.
  • Drink: Award-winning journalist Anne Dowsett Johnston combines in-depth research with her own personal story of recovery, and delivers a groundbreaking examination of a shocking yet little recognized epidemic threatening society today: the precipitous rise in risky drinking among women and girls.

Visit LovEd Loves for more recommendations. 

 
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THINGS WE're LOVING LATELY

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MEET OUR TEAM

Here at LovEd, we wouldn't be able to do half of what we do if it weren't for our team of engaging, enthusiastic and creative team members. Each month, we'll introduce you to a new member of the LovEd Team and share a short description so you get a better insight into who we are and what we're made of.  You can find out more about our team here and our Fearless Leader, right here

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Wishing you all a wonderful month ahead! Feel free to show us some love by liking and sharing our blog post, or leave us a love note at the bottom on the page. 


You are LovEd ,

Dr. Isabell Springer
& The LovEd Team

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A Community That Communicates

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Communication, or lack thereof, is the number one cause of failed relationships. 

Poor communication in our relationships leads to fighting and bickering, feeling unheard and misunderstood, and being unable to establish a common ground. In order to strengthen our communication skills, we must develop the art of communication, practice active listening and get a real grasp on who we are.
 

Develop the Art of Communication

Effective communication is a learned skill. That means, if we haven’t actually gone out and learned how to communicate, we haven’t fully grasped it yet. The words we speak are not the same thing as the message we communicate. It’s about more than just threading words together. Interpersonal communication encompasses a myriad of factors such as eye contact, body language, words used, meaning implied, empathy, compassion, perspective-taking, mutual understanding and being fully present.

There are many resources available that aim to enhance our communication skills. They’re accessible, available and affordable, whether they be coaches, workshops, online resources, therapists, books or retreats. That said, the most important factor in developing our communication skills is a willingness to be vulnerable and a desire to learn.

 

Practice Active Listening and Being Present

If we define effective communication as an exchange of information and meaning between two parties, then active listening is a required component. Active listening is about being present, paying attention and fully understanding the intention behind what another person is saying. Active listeners let people communicate, retain what is said and respond in thoughtful, engaging ways.

When active listening is absent from the conversation, both parties may be speaking to one another but neither one is being truly understood.

When we practice active listening, we pay attention to more than just what words are being used and in what order. We also stay mindful of nonverbal communication such as body language, the process by which people relay information through physical cues. Things such as eye contact, facial expression, and body posture can reveal a lot of information about the emotion behind the message.

We interpret someone’s words by the various forms of meaning we ascribe to them. However, that may not be the intended message of the other person. It’s our responsibility to understand that there are many barriers to effective communication, and that each person brings their own emotions, perspectives, and interpretations to the exchange.

The thing about effective communication is that what’s left unsaid can be just as important, if not more so, than what is said. Whenever a breakdown in communication occurs and we go into self-protective mode, Brené Brown suggests an innovative approach instead of lashing out in anger. She recommends we use the phrase “the story I’m telling myself is…” and explaining what we think and feel about the situation. By approaching a dispute in this fashion, we’re being honest about how we feel without getting defensive and making assumptions, and we’re staying vulnerable. This, in turn, opens the door to enhanced understanding and diminishes any false stories we’re telling ourselves about the situation.
 

Get to Know Yourself

It’s only when we first identify how we actually feel that we can begin fostering the tools and language to express it. Through self-reflection, meditation, honesty, and vulnerability with ourselves, we can get clear on what our needs are and what message we truly seek to convey.

We can make a habit of asking ourselves some important questions when communicating. Things like: “What is it that I’m looking for in this conversation? How am I feeling right now? What are the needs I’m trying to have met?” By being honest with ourselves about what we seek to communicate and to what end, we’re better equipped to convey how we feel to others.

Finally, an important component of effective communication is taking the time to practice. We can join a group online, practice conversing with those closest to us, as well as start utilizing different tactics or skills. We should continue to self-reflect and check in with ourselves as well as those whom we’re communicating with, in order to ensure we’re on the same page.

Failure to communicate effectively can lead to triggers, knee-jerk reactions, defensive comments and even the breakdown of our relationships. Communication is a learned skill that is easy to foster, but only if we take the initiative to learn. By seeking resources, incorporating active listening and getting to know ourselves better, we increase our chances of understanding others, and in turn, in feeling understood.

Consequently, it is through the learned skill of communication that we can enhance feelings of closeness and connection in our relationships and community at large.


This article was originally featured here in Gainesville's HOME Magazine. 

LoveLetters - Issue 5

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MAY 2018
 

Welcome to LoveLetters, a monthly roundup of upcoming events, inspiring ideas and products we love. Our goal is to produce an issue of our newsletter towards the end of each month that will provide an overview of what we've been up to at LovEd and what we're loving lately. 

Our Ambassador Program is in full swing. The mission of the Program is to create a community of like-minded individuals who are invested in personal growth, passionate about doing love differently, and committed to being the best version of themselves. If you're interested in applying for next year's journey, you can follow this link to find out more. 

We're working diligently on finalizing the launch for our Salon for Singles series, so stay tuned! It's going to be epic! So without further ado, here's our LoveLetters Issue 5.

Happy June!

 

Enjoy + Share
WITH a friend!

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BE THE 5 Segment: 

LovEd's Clarity Program teaches us how to be a level 5 on the Emotional Maturity (EM) Scale. Each month, we feature someone who has inspired us with their high level of EM, meaning they've chosen not to take things personally, respond reactively or approach the situation in a way that contributes to the problem. 

This month, our segment is focusing on John Mayer. If you've followed celebrity media over the past few years, you've no doubt heard about the controversy surrounding John. He has been accused of speaking inappropriately, especially about some of his well-known ex-girlfriends, during various public interviews. But then things went quiet for awhile.

Recently, John was interviewed on the YouTube segment "Hot Ones" where guests eat wings doused in varying degrees of hot sauce while answering questions. John revealed a few important things that demonstrated his level of emotional maturity has grown. First, he admits to having quit drinking, and had previously revealed on twitter that he's been sober since October 2016 with the message that sobriety's been a "constant return on investment".  

John also revealed that he recently purchased a ranch in Montana that he escapes to when he becomes too much of that person he dislikes. He's admitted that he cared far too much about his ego and thriving off the praise and attention he'd receive from fans, now choosing to focus on his craft instead. Clearly, John has developed some self-awareness over the past few years. He's been able to acknowledge the parts of himself he doesn't care for, while making significant strides in mitigating the issues. John, thanks for being the 5! 

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LovEd Loves: Our Favorite VIDEOS: 

Here are some of our favorite videos in the realm of self-help and personal-growth:  

 

Visit LovEd Loves for more recommendations. 

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THINGS WE're LOVING LATELY

  • A three-pronged approach to dealing with difficult people. 
  • Why we owe it to ourselves to spend some quiet time alone every day.
  • These lessons from the longest study on human happiness.
  • How to create a daily self-care routine that you’ll actually stick to.
  • Why building a great sex life is not rocket science, according to the Gottman Institute. 
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MEET OUR TEAM

Here at LovEd, we wouldn't be able to do half of what we do if it weren't for our team of engaging, enthusiastic and creative team members. Each month, we'll introduce you to a new member of the LovEd Team and share a short description so you get a better insight into who we are and what we're made of.  You can find out more about our team here and our Fearless Leader, right here

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Wishing you all a wonderful month ahead! Feel free to show us some love by liking and sharing our blog post, or leave us a love note at the bottom on the page. 


You are LovEd ,

Dr. Isabell Springer
& The LovEd Team

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LoveLetters - Issue 4

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APRIL 2018
 

Welcome to LoveLetters, a monthly roundup of upcoming events, inspiring ideas and products we love. Our goal is to produce an issue of our newsletter towards the end of each month that will provide an overview of what we've been up to at LovEd and what we're loving lately. 

We'll be featuring our fourth LovEd Live event on May 12th at 2PM EST where we'll answer all your burning questions on love and personal growth. If you missed out interview for the Happiness After Heartbreak Summit, it's now available on the Interviews section of our website. 

Our Ambassador Program is in full swing. The mission of the Program is to create a community of like-minded individuals who are invested in personal growth, passionate about doing love differently, and committed to being the best version of themselves. If you're interested in applying for next year's journey, you can follow this link to find out more. 

We're JUST about ready to launch our Salon for Singles series, so stay tuned! 

Without further ado, here's our LoveLetters Issue 4.

Happy May!

 

Enjoy + Share
WITH a friend!

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BE THE 5 Segment: 

LovEd's Clarity Program teaches us how to be a level 5 on the Emotional Maturity (EM) Scale. Each month, we feature someone who has inspired us with their high level of EM, meaning they've chosen not to take things personally, respond reactively or approach the situation in a way that contributes to the problem. 

This month, our segment is focusing on Jenn Campbell Jackson. The day after she lost her husband Earnest in a car accent, she wrote a Facebook post asking for people to hold the woman responsible in their hearts as well. It wasn't 24 hours later, and this is who she was choosing to be, as others were outraged that the driver had left the scene. She asked: "Is she a mother? Was she terrified? Did she panic?" 

What an inspiration Jenn is for us all, especially those of us facing such a great loss. 
 

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LovEd Loves: Our Favorite RETREATS: 

Here are some of our favorite workshops & retreats in the realm of self-help and personal-growth:  

 
  • 1440 Multiversity is a place to experience time differently—exploring what matters to you, while surrounded by fresh air, delicious food, wellness classes, many ways to unwind, and opportunities to connect with yourself and others. Whether you come for a program with world-renowned faculty or spend a weekend on campus taking 1440 specialty classes, you can look forward to the perfect blend of learning, vacation, and space for reflection.

  • A leader and innovator in its field, Landmark is an international personal and professional growth, training and development company with a range of offerings that are innovative, effective, and immediately relevant.

  • The Kripalu Center for Yoga & Health is a non-profit organization that operates a health and yoga retreat in Stockbridge, Massachusetts. The center has described itself as North America's largest residential facility for holistic health and education.

  • Omega is a nonprofit, mission-driven, and donor-supported educational organization. For more than 40 years they've been a pioneer in holistic studies – helping people and organizations integrate personal growth and social change, moving beyond ‘the way it is’ toward ‘the way it can be’. 

Visit LovEd Loves for more recommendations. 

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THINGS WE're LOVING LATELY

  • This video montage of men's dating applications from the 80s
    Why fixing other people's problems can leave us with more of our own
  • This article that deals with the magnitude that comes out of the decision to get married 
  • The New York Times' column that focuses on the trials and tribulations of modern love
  • This take on whether female friendships are the key to happiness in older women
  • Research shows that people with strong emotional intelligence are more likely to succeed than those with high IQs
  • Our article featured in Gainesville Home Magazine discusses how to enhance your communication skills
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MEET OUR TEAM

Here at LovEd, we wouldn't be able to do half of what we do if it weren't for our team of engaging, enthusiastic and creative team members. Each month, we'll introduce you to a new member of the LovEd Team and share a short description so you get a better insight into who we are and what we're made of.  You can find out more about our team here and our Fearless Leader, right here

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Wishing you all a wonderful month ahead! Feel free to show us some love by liking and sharing our blog post, or leave us a love note at the bottom on the page. 


You are LovEd ,

Dr. Isabell Springer
& The LovEd Team

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LoveLetters - Issue 3

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MARCH 2018

Welcome to LoveLetters, a monthly roundup of upcoming events, inspiring ideas and products we love. Our goal is to produce an issue of our newsletter towards the end of each month that will provide an overview of what we've been up to at LovEd and what we're loving lately. 

In the past month, we had our third LovEd Live event on March 24th where we answered all your burning questions on love and personal growth. We were also interviewed for the Happiness After Heartbreak Summit where we talked about Clarity and the New Model for Love. 

Our Ambassador Program is in full swing. The mission of the Program is to create a community of like-minded individuals who are invested in personal growth, passionate about doing love differently, and committed to being the best version of themselves. If you're interested in applying for next year's journey, you can follow this link to find out more. 

We're almost ready to launch our Salon for Singles series! Stay tuned for next month's LoveLetters where we'll unveil all the details and reveal how you can participate. 

Without further ado, here's our LoveLetters Issue 3.

Happy April!

 

Enjoy + Share
WITH a friend!

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BE THE 5 Segment: 

LovEd's Clarity Program teaches us how to be a level 5 on the Emotional Maturity (EM) Scale. Each month, we feature someone who has inspired us with their high level of EM, meaning they've chosen not to take things personally, respond reactively or approach the situation in a way that contributes to the problem. 

This month, our segment is focusing on Jessica Chastain. Recently on social media, Jessica shared a photo of herself supporting feminism and international women's day. One follower's reply challenged Jessica's pro-choice stance, but instead of invalidating her feelings and starting an argument, miss Chastain replied with love and compassion.

She took the time to learn about this particular fan's background and discovered that she had a crowdfunding campaign to help her struggle with becoming a parent. Jessica contributed financially to the campaign and both women were left feeling with a sense of sisterhood and empathy for one another. To read more about how Jessica Chastain demonstrated being the 5 on the EM Scale, you can visit this link

 
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LovEd Loves: Our Favorite BOOKS: 

Here are our favorite books in the realm of self-help, relationships and personal-growth:  

 
  • The Surrender Experiment tells the extraordinary story of what happened when, after a deep spiritual awakening, author Michael A. Singer decided to let go of his personal preferences and simply let life call the shots.

  • Tiny Beautiful Things brings the best of Cheryl Strayed (aka 'Dear Sugar') in one place. Filled with personality, humor, insight, compassion, empathy and raw honesty, this book is a salve for the human condition.

  • Conscious Uncoupling by Katherine Woodward Thomas intends to shift us away from approaching breakups with bitterness and pain, and instead guides us towards a new life of empowerment.

Visit LovEd Loves for more recommendations. 

 
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THINGS WE're LOVING LATELY

  • The search for "the one" and what it means in modern relationships
  • Ten things that steal our motivation and how to get it back
  • Mark Manson's guide to strong boundaries and how to set them
  • The Minimalists approach letting go of unsatisfying relationships 
  • This article on why we may feel a sense of "lacking" when we don't have old friends 
 
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MEET OUR TEAM

Here at LovEd, we wouldn't be able to do half of what we do if it weren't for our team of engaging, enthusiastic and creative team members. Each month, we'll introduce you to a new member of the LovEd Team and share a short description so you get a better insight into who we are and what we're made of.  You can find out more about our team here and our Fearless Leader, right here. 

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Wishing you all a wonderful month ahead! Feel free to show us some love by liking and sharing our blog post, or leave us a love note at the bottom on the page. 


You are LovEd ,

Dr. Isabell Springer
& The LovEd Team

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