LoveLetters - Issue 10


October 2018

Welcome to LoveLetters, a monthly roundup of upcoming events, inspiring ideas and products we love. Our goal is to produce an issue of our newsletter towards the end of each month that will provide an overview of what we've been up to at LovEd and what we're loving lately. 

At the University of Indianapolis presenting the Clarity Program.

At the University of Indianapolis presenting the Clarity Program.

In terms of updates for this past month, Dr. Isabell Springer recently presented Clarity to the University of Indianapolis and we’ve included a photo of the event. We’re changing the game of love!

In other news, a Decision Under Infatuation (or DUI for short), is what happens when we make a life-changing commitment to a partner while still in the stage of Infatuation. We may know the person as well as we can for the short time span, but it’s not until the Infatuation stage is finished (past the first year) that we really begin to learn who someone is.

Once a week for the past month, we released an article for our DUI Series. Each article touched upon a topic having to do with DUIs, and we’d love to hear what you think! If you missed the posts, you can catch up on all the info below!

Wishing you all a wonderful month of November! 


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BE THE 5 Segment: 

LovEd's Clarity Program teaches us how to be a level 5 on the Emotional Maturity (EM) Scale. Each month, we feature someone who has inspired us with their high level of EM, meaning they've chosen not to take things personally, respond reactively or approach the situation in a way that contributes to the problem. 

This month, we're featuring renown actress, Scarlett Johansson. Scarlett Johansson was recently cast to act as a transgender man in a role for a film. But many people, including the trans community, criticized the choice of casting Johansson, a cisgendered female, as opposed to casting a trans actor, to play the role.

Jamie Clayton, a transgender actor who currently stars in the show Sense8, explained that it's important to cast trans actors in trans roles, because "actors who are trans never even get to audition for anything other than roles of trans characters."

Initially, Johansson responded to the criticism by diverting the issue and telling people to speak with the reps of other cisgender actors who've successfully played transgendered roles. But eventually, she gave a statement saying she is no longer affiliated with the role. "Our cultural understanding of transgender people continues to advance," said Johansson. "I've learned a lot from the community since making my first statement about my casting and realize it was insensitive."

"I am thankful that this casting debate, albeit controversial, has sparked a larger conversation about diversity and representation in film."

-Scarlett Johansson

She also added that despite the controversy, she's grateful that the issue has sparked a broader conversation about the representation of diversity in movies. She also acknowledged that the number of LGBTQ+ characters cast in movies dropped by 40% in 2017 (from the previous year), and all artists should be considered “equally and fairly”.

The response to her decision has been favorable. Trans actor and activist Jen Richards stated: “To exhibit the spirit of generosity I earnestly want to see more of, I am going to take Scarlett Johansson at her word that she listened to feedback, realized that despite her intentions this was going to cause harm, and made the right decision to step down. Well done.”

To learn more about the issues surrounding Johansson’s decision, you can visit this site.

Thanks for being the 5, Scarlett! 



Here are some books you’ll love this October according to Oprah: new novels and memoirs you’ve probably never read (but should).


Visit LovEd Loves for more recommendations. 



  • Five books you might like to read if you experience social anxiety.

  • This article that explores the signs of an emotionally abusive relationship.

  • The codependent friendship: when the lines blur between healthy attachment and total enmeshment.

  • This perfect response to president Trump's 'scary time' for men comment

  • The School of Life talks right here about the concept of bittersweet memories.



It’s important to remember that celebrities are people too and that we shouldn’t place them on a pedestal because they’re famous. The truth is, they’re just as likely as anyone else to make mistakes in love. A DUI occurs when we make a life-changing commitment to our partner while still in the stage of Infatuation. Infatuation can last up to a year, and sometimes even longer.

Our brand new segment takes a look at celebrities committing DUIs and starts a much-needed conversation in hopes of helping everyone do love differently. To discover what our second DUI segment is about, click here


Wishing you all a wonderful month ahead! Feel free to show us some love by liking and sharing our blog post, or leave us a love note at the bottom on the page. 

You are LovEd,

Dr. Isabell Springer
& The LovEd Team