LoveLetters - Issue 11


December 2018

Welcome to LoveLetters, a monthly roundup of upcoming events, inspiring ideas and products we love. Our goal is to produce an issue of our newsletter towards the end of each month that will provide an overview of what we've been up to at LovEd and what we're loving lately. To get a copy sent straight to your inbox each month, make sure to subscribe to our newsletter!

Once a week for the month of October, we released an article for our DUI Series. Based on the response from these blog posts, we’ve decided to feature some of our favorite posts we’ve published during the past few years! And we’re working on curating some fresh content for you all in the new year.

So check out the featured blog posts below and let us know what you think! If there’s anything in particular you’re interested in learning about, let us know by leaving a comment below, or by sending us an email through our contact page.

Wishing you all a wonderful month of January and a fantastic new year! Happy 2019!


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BE THE 5 Segment: 

LovEd's Clarity Program teaches us how to be a level 5 on the Emotional Maturity (EM) Scale. Each month, we feature someone who has inspired us with their high level of EM, meaning they've chosen not to take things personally, respond reactively or approach the situation in a way that contributes to the problem. 

This month, we're featuring the singer Ariana Grande. Though Ariana and (her now ex-boyfriend) Pete Davidson were featured as one of our “DUI” couples (read the post right here), we’re excited to see Ariana taking the higher ground emotionally and making a self-aware decision to end her engagement and time for herself.

And Ariana had a tough year: other than her very public love affair and subsequent breakup with Davidson, she also lost her recent ex-boyfriend Mac Miller to an accidental overdose. She and Miller had been together about two years, and she still spoke very highly of him after their breakup. The news of his death has understandably been hard on Ariana and it’s rumored to be one of the leading causes of her recent breakup with Pete Davidson. (They were allegedly engaged in June, Mac Miller died in September and by October, the couple had officially called it quits.) Ariana has also stated recently that she has Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) after witnessing the suicide bomber attack that killed 22 people at her concert in 2017 in Manchester, UK.

"One taught me love, one taught me patience and one taught me pain, now I'm so amazing. I've loved and I've lost, but that's not what I see; so look what I got, look what you taught me... And for that I say: thank you, next."


Shortly after news of her recent breakup hit the media, Ariana released a new single called “thank u, next.” The single is essentially an homage to the lessons learned from all her past relationships, and it also pokes fun at the fact that she’s known to “move on too fast.”

However, she challenged that notion in her song, spinning the narrative to say that she’s met someone else and her name is Ari (herself). The point Ariana is making is that while breakups are painful, she’s learned a lot of powerful lessons and has found strength in her grief. Plus, finding yourself and honoring who you are is one of the greatest blessings we can find in this world.

Ariana shows us that even after making some less than ideal decisions, we can still turn things around and reap the benefits from our challenges. It’s never too late to become who we want to be.

Thanks for stepping up and being the 5, Ariana! 



Here are some books on depression and anxiety as recommended by author Mark Manson. On his blog post discussing depression resources, he describes that books are often categorized in three separate topics as all three types are useful in their own way.

  • Greater Understanding/Research: These books help to break down the science behind what’s happening with your brain.

  • Feeling Less Alone: These books inspire hope and connection with others who have experienced the same thing.

  • Exercises/Actions: These books offer proactive steps and activities to take in order to help relieve symptoms.

"In my experience, the best books on dealing with anxiety and depression are the best because they are honest about the situation. There is this thing that sucks, and you’re not going to magically make it go away. You have to deal with it, engage it, wrestle with it a bit and become stronger in the face of it."


To find out which category each book below fits into, as well as read Mark’s description of the books, check out his blog post now!


Visit LovEd Loves for more recommendations. 



  • This article on how to get amicably divorced.

  • The Gottman Institute discusses how to recover on from an emotional affair.

  • A practical approach to the infamous five stages of grief.

  • How to support a grieving child (hint: they are not mini adults).

  • Five principles for making better life decisions.

  • How to disentangle and identify your feelings when facing emotional eating.

  • What to do when you feel let down by someone.

  • How to be happier with what you have.

  • Esther Perel talks about how to stay together despite your major differences.

  • Strangers on the street answer the question: have you ever had your heart broken?



It’s important to remember that celebrities are people too and that we shouldn’t place them on a pedestal because they’re famous. The truth is, they’re just as likely as anyone else to make mistakes in love. A DUI occurs when we make a life-changing commitment to our partner while still in the stage of Infatuation. Infatuation can last up to a year, and sometimes even longer.

Our brand new segment takes a look at celebrities committing DUIs and starts a much-needed conversation in hopes of helping everyone do love differently. To discover what our second DUI segment is about, click here

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Wishing you all a wonderful month ahead! Feel free to show us some love by liking and sharing our blog post, or leave us a love note at the bottom on the page. 

You are LovEd,

Dr. Isabell Springer
& The LovEd Team