LoveLetters - Issue 12


December 2018

Welcome to LoveLetters, a monthly roundup of upcoming events, inspiring ideas and products we love. Our goal is to produce an issue of our newsletter towards the end of each month that will provide an overview of what we've been up to at LovEd and what we're loving lately. To get a copy sent straight to your inbox each month, make sure to subscribe to our newsletter!

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We hope you had a wonderful holiday season, regardless of what or how you celebrate. We don’t believe the new year must be a time to change who you are, because who you are is already good enough. With that in mind, we made some goals (instead of resolutions) to focus on in the coming year. These goals are not restrictive or punitive; rather, they inspire us to better to love ourselves and others.

Please feel free to save, print and/or share the graphic below as you wish - and don’t forget to tag us, we enjoy seeing you spread the love!

We’ve also decided to feature some of our favorite posts we’ve published during the past few years! We featured some posts for last month’s LoveLetters, and we’ve gathered even more to share with you today.

In fact, we’re working on curating some fresh content for you all in the new year. If there’s anything in particular you’re interested in learning about, let us know by leaving a comment below, or by sending us an email through our contact page.

Wishing you all a wonderful month of January, and a fantastic 2019! 


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BE THE 5 Segment: 

LovEd's Clarity Program teaches us how to be a level 5 on the Emotional Maturity (EM) Scale. Each month, we feature someone who has inspired us with their high level of EM, meaning they've chosen not to take things personally, respond reactively or approach the situation in a way that contributes to the problem. 

This month, we're featuring the actor and Governor, Arnold Schwarzenegger.

Ali, a Reddit user from Quebec, had been suffering from depression and decided to send a direct message to Arnold. In his message, he wrote “I know this is pandering but, I’ve been depressed for months and haven’t hit the gym during that time. Mr. Schwarzenegger can you please tell me to get off my lazy ass and hit the gym? I swear to everything I hold dear that I will snap out of it and go.”

To Ali’s surprise, not only did Arnold respond to his message, but he responded in a compassionate, understanding way - instead of taking the typical “get over it” stance that many people take when they don’t understand depression and its biochemical origins.

"I’m not going to be that hard on you. Please don’t be that hard on yourself. We all go through challenges, we all go through failure. Sometimes life is a workout. But the key thing is you get up. Just move a little. Roll out of bed and do some pushups or go for a walk. Just do something. One step at a time, I hope you feel better and get back to the gym. But don’t beat yourself up, because that’s just useless talk. It doesn’t get you closer to the gym. And don’t be afraid to ask for help. Good luck."


When someone else on Reddit thanked Arnold for his reply, he simply credit Ali for inspiring the comment and leading the way. Then, Arnold took it a step further by posting his own video and sending the love back to Ali.

“You asked me to pump you up a little bit about your depression. I’m very happy that you snapped out of it and that now you’re pumping up other people that have depression” said Arnold. “You’re encouraging them and giving them positive reinforcements. I love that. Hasta la vista.”

You can read more about this story right here and watch the video that Arnold posted below. Thanks for the inspiration and for being the 5, Arnold! 



Here are some podcast episodes we’re loving from the past year. Clicking on each individual image will allow you to listen to the episodes for yourselves!


By The Book: The Simple Art of Not Giving A F*ck

“Jolenta and Kristen live by Mark Manson's best seller, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck.  Throughout the two weeks the ladies deal with failure, confront their own mortality, and try to give fewer f*cks.”


“True stories of beautiful epiphanies and majestic, horrible disasters. Our listeners have stepped up to provide true life tales of therapy gone comically bad and therapy that worked out great.”


“Sincere anecdotes, goofy pre-planned bits, and self-deprecating remembrances all swirl together for a heart-opening, butt-loosening show that combines the best parts of stand-up and storytelling.”



“Mansoor Adayfi was detained at Guantanamo Bay between 2002 and 2016 without ever being charged with a crime. Despite spending a number of those years in isolation, he explains how the process of refining his own ideas about what being in love must feel like helped to sustain him.”

The Nod: Saving Grace

“‘Saving Grace’ illustrates a distinctly modern iteration on the universal act of grieving, and though this isn’t a particularly new topic, this episode does successfully capture both the surreality and the earnest power of the process.”

Beautiful Stories From Anonymous People: I Survived a Mass Shooting

“The comedian gets on the phone with an anonymous caller for a full hour, and he’s committed to follow the interaction wherever it goes. The resulting conversation is searching and affirming, and a testament to the openness of Gethard’s project.”


Visit LovEd Loves for more recommendations. 



  • This article about when one person controls the relationship and how to mitigate that.

  • Seven self-sabotaging things that perfectionists do.

  • Jada Pinkett-Smith explores how to forgive on this episode of the Red Table Talk.

  • How to make the everyday moments count more in your relationship.

  • How our careers can negatively affect our children.

  • This funny video comparing Moms during the holidays in 1988 and in 2018.

  • Seven ways we can inadvertently invalidate others’ feelings.

  • These four words may be the perfect fix when your relationship needs a tune-up.

  • The permission to say “nope” during Christmastime.

  • Some thoughts about the emotional elephant in the room.



It’s important to remember that celebrities are people too and that we shouldn’t place them on a pedestal because they’re famous. The truth is, they’re just as likely as anyone else to make mistakes in love. A DUI occurs when we make a life-changing commitment to our partner while still in the stage of Infatuation. Infatuation can last up to a year, and sometimes even longer.

Our brand new segment takes a look at celebrities committing DUIs and starts a much-needed conversation in hopes of helping everyone do love differently. To discover what our DUI segment is about, click here


Wishing you all a wonderful month ahead! Feel free to show us some love by liking and sharing our blog post, or leave us a love note at the bottom on the page. 

You are LovEd,

Dr. Isabell Springer
& The LovEd Team